In marriage, we need to always focus on loving our spouse first, not next. As far as human relationships go, spouse comes first not next. We may not love our spouse last, but too many times we show attention after something else - next.
It may be your job. You just need to spend time getting ahead. When this project is over, then I'll take my spouse on a long vacation. But the vacation never happens. I'm tired after a long project, so I need to rest. Then another project is due. Sounds like next to me.
It may be your kids. After carpool, feeding, bathing, disciplining, sports, doctors - you name it. We don't take the effort to make our spouse first.
It may be a hobby - golf, shopping, workout, reading. After I finish this, then we'll spend some time together.
Is your spouse first, or next?